Ways you are treated different just because you are a Woman- passed down through generations!

Being born as a Woman in a lot of societies automatically sets out certain expectations for you, some of which may be outdated or not relevant to women today.  Or we can have certain beliefs and expectations passed down through generations that may not match our current values. Also, being born a Woman in some cultures and societies can mean you are treated differently than Men and given different rights.

For example, in the UK woman were not allowed to open a bank account or apply for credit without a husband or male relative permission until 1975. Can you imagine that now- a basic right that women now have was not recognised until only 50 years ago! The same as equal pay act didn’t come into force until 1983, which allowed women to be paid the same as men for work of equal value. Women were also not allowed to inherit property on the same terms as men until 1918. In 1922 was the first time women and men were allowed to inherit each other’s property.

In terms of career women were more encouraged to do professions like teaching, nursing and music but when they got married were often forced to resign. There were also certain careers that Women were not allowed to do such as:

-accountancy and legal professions until 1919, work in London stock exchange until 1973. Women were excluded from being a lawyer, civil servant and magistrate until 1919. It was not until 1919 that Women were able to access higher education, before this they were denied the right.

In the UK women were not allowed to be served in a pub for spending their own money until 1982. There were also not allowed to serve on a jury until 1912. Women also were not able to vote until 1918.

As you can see Women have been treated below Men for along time and has created a lot of trauma for women that has been passed down through generations. There has been positive changes that has helped women today but some of the negative beliefs, circumstances, trauma can still be present in women’s life’s today.

Some of the negative beliefs for women today can be:

•I am not enough as a Woman

•I am not worthy of material wealth

•I have to have a man in order to feel worthy or good enough

•I have to be Married by a certain age

•I have to have children by a certain age

•I am only worthy of certain professions

•I am below Men. Men are treated better than me.

•I need a man’s permission to do things in my life.

•As a woman l don’t have any needs.

•I am not worthy of opening my own bank account or credit or own property.

•I can’t be too fat or too skinny.

•I need to look perfect as a Woman.

•I can’t have my own money.

•I have to walk behind the Man as l am not good enough.

•I am not allowed to make decisions as a woman.

•I cannot inherit property as a Woman.

•The man can do whatever he wants and l don’t have a say.

•I am not allowed to do the career or job l love.

•I need to do everything at home and look after the children even if l don’t want to.

•I am not allowed to save money.

•A man will leave me when l get a certain age.

•I cannot divorce a Man.

If you feel or resonate with any of the above then you can start changing the negative beliefs that have been passed down to you for being a Women by:

•Getting professional help for any trauma that has been passed down to you or you have experienced.

•Know you are worthy as a Woman no matter what.

•Look at any family, society or cultural expectations you abide by and evaluate if they align with your values and needs now or not. If they don’t look at changing them to what does align with your needs, values and beliefs now instead.

•Acknowledge and become aware that you do not need to do things how your family, society or culture want you to or have done things in the past. It is your life to decide how to live it.

•Start practicing self care. Check out my ebook on self care to get you started.

•Explore your own needs and start applying them into your life.

•Implement loving affirmations into your daily life.

•Start loving yourself as a Woman -if you need help where to start with this here is my ebook on how to love yourself as a woman.